I found myself drawn to a dress shop in the factory outlet complex and as I walked in, a beautiful young woman behind the counter greeted me with a very friendly hello. She smiled a smile at me that lit up the whole room. I was delighted and told her that it was so lovely to be welcomed like that on a Friday! She told me her name was Laura and that she was going home early and going away on a holiday. I asked her how long it would take to get to her destination and who she was going with. She mentioned her dog and three children and I asked if she had a partner. She told me that her ex-husband was coming with them and he was her best friend. Oh how my heart lit up to hear these sweet words. I exclaimed how wonderful it was to hear that and her smile lit up my heart again. She told me that so many people did not think it was a wise thing for her to be friends with her ex-husband. She said that he would often stay overnight and sleep in her son’s bedroom. I guess that is why she did not initially mention to me that he was going, thinking perhaps that I might judge her ability to decide what is best in her own life. I thought it was absolutely wonderful! Where there is LOVE there is LIGHT. This was another beautiful reminder to let go of the idea that I know what is best for anyone. To accept others ability to make their own decisions without any influence from me is a blessing. Why would I want to judge someone who is creating LOVE in her relationship with her ex-husband and letting her children witness that between their parents? What could be more beautiful than that! How do we transform wars in the world? We do it in our very own backyards. This couple are an amazing example of how we create peace on Earth! They are teaching their children how to live peacefully. She told me it wasn’t always like this and she and her husband had done some deep inner work to clean out their minds and hearts. That is so courageous and for that I am so grateful to them, because we are all connected in the heart.
I took a photo of her and told her how beautiful she was. Before I left I gave her a big hug and as I walked away I said: “I guess I didn’t come in here to look for clothes after all!” When I follow the guidance of my heart, I end up having incredible encounters that bring me JOY. It was a true JOY to meet a single mother who remains best friends with her ex-husband. When parents separate it does not have to mean that the children will suffer. Children do really well and adjust easily if their separated parents can remain friends. May I always remember to let go of what I think is best for others and to simply see with eyes of LOVE, non-judgement and acceptance. This is my contribution to peace on Earth.
~Eileen Dielesen (copyright 16.10.2017)
Eileen is always inspired by the voice of Love within her. May our hearts always be joined as ONE in Love and through the words that appear on these pages may you feel the light and Love she has for you.