Life isn't always easy but you don't have to take it personally.Turn your eyes towards the LIGHT. There is always another way to view life. When things look dark and you feel pain.....then let yourself feel it fully and WATCH the story that unfolds in your mind. Don't let yourself become a victim in that story. Just watch it and remind yourself that you can just simply FEEL what you feel - sadness, anger, disappointment and hurt, but running the story is optional.
Yesterday I had the opportunity to join with 'strangers' not once, but TWICE to remind me that my stories are just that: STORIES! I make them up. In the first instance I was on a bus and a woman boarded and sat in the seat opposite me. We laughed our heads off and the bus driver joined in our conversation! I was telling them that I could make a true 'Days of Our Lives' drama story about the issues happening in my life and then I said the above words to them: "Life isn't always easy but you don't have to take it personally." I said out loud: "I like those words, I am going to write them down!" Ha ha! When the woman left the bus I wished her a magical day and she looked at me with great joy in her eyes and said: "Meeting you has already made it a magical day." The second time I was reminded when I was in a store waiting in a long queue and was chatting to the man in front of me. A woman joined the queue and I said to her: "You can join our conversation". She began by making up a story of why there was only one shop assistant serving. She had decided that all the staff had gone out to a lunch because the shop next door was also short staffed. I laughed and said that's a good story! Then the man in front of me said that he thought that a few of the staff had left early to go away for the long weekend. The woman immediately said: "I think you are on to something, that's probably it." We all laughed when I said: "That's a good story!" When I got to the front of the line another shop assistant turned up and I turned to the woman next to me and said: "She has probably just come back from the toilet!" We laughed out loud! Then the man in front of me turned to me as he was leaving and said: "You should be a writer!" I smiled and told him I was! So here it is....my writing for today! I hope you see that your stories can make you miserable or they can be seen for what they are...just stories! Turn your eyes towards the LIGHT and you will never believe your suffering stories again! You will probably end up laughing instead of crying!
~Eileen Dielesen (copyright 2.03.2019)
MY FAMILY ARE EVERYWHERE I GO AND I AM NEVER ALONE, NOR DO I FEEL LONELY. When you live with a wide open heart then you find your friends and family wherever you are. There just are no strangers - only friends and family you have never met. It was a magic and miraculous day for me yesterday, in what most people would consider an ordinary life. Firstly I headed off to the city on the train to see a new homeopath. This was the first time I had met his man. It was a meeting filled with joy as he tells me how wonderful it is to meet someone who understands the reasons for working with the body's natural immune responses and understanding the deep truth of holistic healing. Later I found myself in a store and as I was looking around an elderly man came in accompanied by his mature age son. His son was so kind, helpful and gentle towards his father. He reminded me of the time with my father in his last years. I told this man what a beautiful son he was to look after his father with so much loving kindness. He had a shocked look on his face. I guess we don't often tell people the beautiful things we see, nor do we honour each other as much as we could. Following that I headed home on the train and along the way a beautiful man sat next to me. We had a delightful conversation about the JOY of being free spirits and being ourselves. We laughed a lot. As he got up to leave at his station I extended my hand and we shook hands as I told him it was a JOY to have met him. The smile on his face was priceless. My family is everywhere I am. This sharing was prompted by a 'memory' of a year ago that Facebook posted today. I thought I'd share it with you again...
"On the coach to Margaret River this evening and watching the sun set as we pass through Australind. I am sitting next to a beautiful young man named Pramod who came here from Nepal 3 years ago. We talked about family, community and human connectedness. He told me when he travels alone he always ends up having older women next to him who connect. I tell him I never had a son so we agree that for the short time we are traveling together I will be his mother and he will be my son. It is a beautiful thing for me to have a wide open heart that allows everyone to be my family. I am never alone and my glorious sons are everywhere. I tell Pramod that he will find his mother will turn up everywhere! Feeling grateful and blessed." 💖
Truly my life is blessed and filled with JOY in the ordinary. What matters is the heart connections. Dare to connect with someone you 'don't' know from your heart today. I promise you will transform the ordinary into the extraordinary.
~Eileen Dielesen (copyright 23.02.2019)
STEP 4 of 12 STEPS TO LOVING THE SELF:
"We took a searching & courageous inventory of all the ways we judge ourselves or others or allowed ourselves to feel like a victim, while loving & accepting ourselves."
STEP 4 STORY:
GIVING UP VICTIM/POOR ME/COMPLAINING STORIES....
I have been looking at how awful I feel when I finish whining and complaining about some perceived problem in my life. I am OVER my own stories that interpret life from this perspective! I made a decision to STOP IT! Yes - simple - STOP IT! Now that is easier said than done! I watch how the ego mind comes up with all sorts of scenarios to pull me back into misery! Yesterday I received a message on my phone to contact the bank to make an appointment to sign a form. Something I thought would be simple! The staff member gave me a number to call and asked me to make an appointment to see a consultant. I phoned the number and YESSSS.... it was one of those choose five different options, none of which suited me. I listened to them all twice and then chose one that I thought might be suitable. Then I got another five different options and finally I hear a ring and then - yes you guessed it - the message: "All of our consultants are currently busy taking other calls and we will answer your call shortly." I was a on a short work break and after a few minutes had to hang up. I was annoyed! All I had to do was sign a form that had been forwarded from another branch. Or so I thought! My mind began running stories. I decided it was easier to just go to the bank and ask to sign the form. After work I tried phoning again - just to add more misery to the already existing misery ha ha! I headed to the bank and I watched my mind saying: "I will tell them how annoyed I was by their phone system - I just wanted to be put through to a branch!". Then I caught it: "Whiney, complainer, poor me mind". I let go of that story and decided to just walk into the bank and ask to sign the form. That is exactly what I did. The customer service officer went away, printed out a form and invited me into an office to fill out a form. Then up came annoyed, complaining, whining angry mind again. I heard my voice snapping as I said: "I can't even fill this form out because I don't have all the information". Then I caught those thoughts, calmed down and began filling out the form providing all the information I could. The customer service officer became really helpful and together we filled out the form and I signed it. We then had a laugh about life and I told her that this should have all been sorted out on a previous visit and I guessed that the person was new and didn't know the procedure. She said: "Most likely" and I felt joy as I laughed. To argue with reality destroys my own peace of mind! I am OVER IT! I want peace more than anything else and I will watch with vigilance that part of my mind that wants to be hang on to control and be: "A POOR ME"! The interesting thing is that when one makes a resolution to let go of the ego mind stories - it ups its anti and all sorts of scenarios arise to challenge one's resolve. I am on to that! The ego has been master for a very long time and it is not going to let go that easily and succumb to servant role. I left the bank wishing the customer service officer a wonderful weekend and she wished me the same. It will be if I choose peace over misery! <3
~Eileen Dielesen (6.10.2018)
STEP 12 of 12 Steps to Loving the Self:
"Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of following these steps, we automatically love others as we love ourselves and carry this message to those who still suffer."
A TRUE STORY RELATED TO STEP 12:
"Yesterday I was standing back a few metres from the ATM machine waiting to use it. A man came up and asked me if I was waiting and then stood behind me saying to me that I could stand closer to the ATM machine. I began telling him about my experience once when I went up to an ATM machine to take out a large amount of cash for an overseas holiday. A man stood nearby and my intuition didn't feel good about his presence. I decided to not take out the cash and go to another ATM machine instead. When I got into my car where my daughter was waiting she gave out a huge sigh of relief saying she also had a bad feeling and was so glad I'd listened to my intuition. I told this man yesterday that no matter what happens, we can still have love and respect for those who do things we deem evil. I shared with him a story that had been told to me many years ago by a man who had been held at knifepoint. He was asked to hand his wallet over. He decided to act from LOVE instead of FEAR. He got his wallet out opened it and said to the robber: "I've only got ten dollars, but you can have it because I can see you need it more than me." The robber put his knife down took the ten dollars and began apologising profusely explaining that he really needed it. The man with the wallet then extended his hand to the robber for a handshake telling him his name and saying it was nice to meet you and wishing him well in his life and saying he hoped things would get better for him. We really don't know what has happened to someone to make them so desperate they have to rob others, but it usually stems from a life of pain and suffering. No one who has been brought up with real LOVE would act this way. We are all born innocent. It can sometimes go on for generations. One thing I do know, JUDGEMENT never resolves anything and is a form of ATTACK. It is the very base cause of all war and conflict in the world. We can bring world peace only when we have it in our own minds and hearts towards everyone. To forgive everyone is to forgive the ONE SELF we all are in essence. The man I shared this story with then says: "Well there are people who are acting crazy on drugs and you have to be careful." Yes, one needs to practice discernment and presence. If you are present and you listen to your intuition and act on your inner guidance all will be well. If you are to experience being robbed - you can also use that as an opportunity to extend LOVE. It could be the perfect suffering lesson for your own spiritual awakening and I have some of those stories to share too! The choice is always yours. LOVE is the ANSWER to all the suffering of this world. JUDGEMENT never heals anything ever! I left that man just loving him and who knows what miracle may happen in his mind and heart. My job is to forgive everything and everyone and extend LOVE to all. The only evil is JUDGEMENT and that takes place in my own mind.
~Eileen Dielesen (copyright 27.7.18)
STEP 10 OF 12 STEPS TO LOVING THE SELF:
"We continue to take daily inventory of all the ways that we are not accepting and loving ourselves, and when we see these areas, promptly love ourselves."
A STEP TEN TRUE STORY......
Yesterday I was travelling on the train and a beautiful young child about 3 years of age was playing with a paper plane. She stood on the empty seat in front of me and I joined in her loud, vibrant joy. We got louder as I totally joined in the play and her giggles were a pure delight for my own inner innocent Heart. The child in me was blessed with an opportunity to play. Then one of her parents said: "Shhhhhh, calm down." I responded: "Why? Why does she have to be quiet, we are having so much fun!" The belief that children should be seen and not heard is one that has probably been handed down since the Victorian era. The parents then smiled and said: "She will probably sleep really well tonight!" Yes, it is natural to want to express ourselves in joyful ways and I LOVE to have the opportunity to be a loud child - it is never too late to have a childhood. What a gift that beautiful child was, a healing angel gracing my life with an opportunity to play loudly! I was able to accept and love my inner joyful, playful and loud child and that was an act of loving myself.
Heaven is here now. Enjoy the precious moment for that is where the timeless beauty of life and God/Love resides. Let go of all thoughts of the past and the future for they keep you held in their tight grip and stop you having the life you were meant to have as a joyful being expressing your uniqueness.
~Eileen Dielesen (Copyright 27.7.18)
My beautiful young grandson began rubbing his eyes after lunch and I gently said to him: “Would you like to lie down on Nanny’s bed for a sleep?” He is still unable to verbalise, but he certainly understands most of what I say. I picked him up, walked to my bedroom, laid him down and gave him his dummy. There was no resistance, he was ready to rest. I lay down beside him and he reached for my hair, twiddling it between his tiny precious fingers. A comforter for him as he lay there letting go and surrendering to sleep. I stroked his tiny head and waited until I felt him completely let go to sleep. There was no hurry to get up and I wanted to savour this moment of my life. This moment would never return again, it was precious. What would I want to hurry back to, when right before me lay DIVINITY/LOVE? What could be more urgent than THIS, JUST THIS? His form became almost luminous as I felt my heart swell with the JOY of just being with this tiny precious form. There before me lay the most SACRED - in form. I was kneeling at the altar of ALL THAT IS and then the tears began. Tears of AMAZING GRACE. This is what grace is. BEING totally present as LOVE to LOVE appearing before me. My words fail to tell you what LOVE is, but your Heart will know, it remembers and it has no words for that which is infallible.
~Eileen Dielesen (copyright 4/05/2018)
I walked into the shopping centre and spotted this wonderful little blue ride on car. My 'inner child' wanted to sit in it and have a ride! I dismissed the thought and continued on with my shopping and then headed back to my car to load the shopping in the boot having made a decision to return to another store for a couple of items. I walked back into the shopping centre and spotted the car again. As I approached the car my 'inner child' just wanted to get in and have a ride. I noticed a woman walking very close behind me and I turned and shared my thoughts with her. To my utter delight she said: " Why don't you, I dare you to!" Yayyyyyyy said my 'inner child' a supportive person. I asked her if she would take a photo and I walked up to the car and I looked in and thought to myself: "There's plenty of room for me in there!" I threw my leg over the side and realised my legs would not slide in as expected! Ha ha. I think I had really regressed to being a child and believing I was much smaller. I was so happy and so full of joy that it became the car, the woman and I and the rest of the shopping mall and possible onlookers did not exist! Now I really know how my grandson feels! This was truly living in the moment with not a care in my mind! Then I realised that I might not have the right coins in my purse. I didn't. I needed $3 and I only had a $2 coin. The woman looked in her purse and without a second thought handed me a $1 coin. I took it greedily like a small excited child would and without an ounce of guilt! As a child all I wanted was this experience. The woman walked around as I positioned myself behind the wheel and I saw there was a race track electronic screen in front of me. She dropped the coins in and they fell straight out! She tried again. I tried. Then we realised that it was probably full and wasn't going to work. It didn't matter because she shared with me how perfectly divine our meeting was because of the program she was planning to deliver in our community to support people to heal their 'inner child'. Wow, she was certainly doing her work with healing my 'inner child'. Only this morning I had spoken to another friend about joining with others and working together in a group with other practitioners who wanted to deliver programs for empowering people to live consciously from their hearts. I think I told this woman about three times that I loved her. It is said in a Course in Miracles that Mighty Companions will walk the world with you when you are devoted to awakening to LOVE. 'I' need do nothing, because as 'I' falls away and I surrender to allowing LOVE to flow through me all my needs are met. I am so utterly grateful, so totally joy filled and so full of child like energy at the end of this day! Blessed I AM.
~Eileen Dielesen (copyright 24.04.2018)
LOL, such a miraculous day. So how does one live with the purpose of extending Love being foremost in the mind? Today, it looked like this…too much to tell you, so I will share a few of the real face to face encounters. I was on a mission to find a nice venue to hold some gatherings in the very near future. I was walking around the town and stood looking inside a coffee shop when this beautiful elderly couple offered me their table as they were about to leave. I sat down and began a most endearing conversation with them. Stan is holding an unlit cigarette in his hand and we laugh as he tells me he still smokes at 93 years of age! We talk about the most important thing to keep in good health, is not what you take into your body, but your attitude and state of mind. He goes on to tell me about his experience as a high school teacher and how a class of ‘troublesome’ students that several teachers gave up on, was transformed in his first 5 minutes of teaching them. He set up a scenario where he left the room for a couple of minutes to talk to someone at the class door, then turned back and told them what a terrific class of students they were, the best he’d ever had and how wonderful that they had stayed quiet whilst he attended to the visitor. That small moment of praise meant he never had a problem with them being troublesome ever again! When we see the best in others…they give us the best in them in return. Stan and his beautiful wife have been together for 70 years! I said goodbye, crossed the road and then to my utter JOY I spotted them driving along the footpath together in a couple gopher.
I headed up the mall and spotted a man sitting down with a greyhound dog lying next to him. I was guided by my inner voice of Love to chat to him. I struck up a conversation about his dog and next thing he tells me he is a homeless person. I ask him what that was like, especially as the nights are getting quite cold. He tells me that yes it is cold, but he lives inside a spaceship and doesn’t feel cold there and is an alien. I listen with my Heart wide open and then he goes on to ask me if I know about ‘shape-shifting’, because that is what he does. He changes his shape and becomes other things. I respond by saying I know what a shape shifter is, because I am one. In that very moment I was shifting my shape to being a presence of Love instead of judgement. To see further outside the box of my conditioned mind and really SEE what a beautiful being was sitting before me. I don’t go into my own understanding of shape shifting with him, but listen carefully to what he tells me. He says his spaceship is called “Falcon” because it is shaped like the Falcon bird of prey. I then tell him I am going and he stands up extending his hand toward me. I shake his hand and he leans in and gives me a kiss on the cheek as he thanks me profusely for talking to him. Wow! The Prince of Peace kissed me on the cheek. He was dressed up as a homeless man who ‘seemed’ to be crazy. Gosh, he was an incredibly creative being who had found a way to live outside this crazy world by living in a different world in his mind. He was LOVE arriving in a form that the world deems ‘crazy’. I didn’t see crazy and that was the healing in my very own Heart and mind.
Next I meet Jason at another coffee shop and have a beautiful conversation with him about being a positive presence in the world. We are just beautiful mirrors for each other. I am intrigued by the name of the shop and how it came to be called Mataya. (see image below for meaning). I leave and walk around the corner and spot this beautiful decorated tree and then realise that I am being a tourist on an amazing adventure and I didn’t even have to leave my hometown! Once you live from your Heart, every day is a holy-day filled with amazing encounters and adventures! You don’t even need to leave home! Each moment you see like you are seeing something for the very first time and everything is always fresh and new. You are living in the PRESENT moment and so this moment is new and will never come again. It is really LIVING this gift called life. I turn to continue walking down the street and notice a building called ‘Make Place’. I always wondered what it was about and I notice there are some women inside. I push the door and enter. I have a beautiful conversation with the three amazing women who are organising a ‘clothes swap’. Your bring in your unwanted clothing, pay $10 for a good cause and then return later in the day to choose clothes you want in exchange. I give two of them some of my ‘little gifts’ and they look at them like I have given them pure gold. Their looks of pure delight totally make my Heart sing. I leave and decide it’s time to go home, the JOY is ridiculously large and bursting in my heart. I need to go and be quiet to integrate the miracle of the LOVE that I have experienced in the mind that has changed. It is seeing the world from a different lens. It is a beautiful world only because I choose to see from my Heart and not my head!
~Eileen Dielesen (copyright 15.04.2018)
Step 1 of 12 Steps to Loving the Self:
"We realise we were giving our power away to the belief that love exists outside ourselves."
A Step 1 Reflection:
We think we can plan what we will do. Then in the moment you make a decision that is completely different to your plan. How many times have you done this? I know with all my Heart that I just can't know what life will want to do through me until the NOW moment arrives. I was never in really in control. it just seemed like I made decisions. It is only in hindsight I can reflect on what happened and realise which part of my mind responded. Was it the fearful part or the love part? Love part always feels like a joyful 'Yes" with no hesitation whatsoever. Fear part usually comes with hesitation, indecision and guilt. The more I commit and surrender to the Love part of my mind, the more I see that it takes over and 'Thy will, not my will' plays its tune in my life.
~Eileen Dielesen (copyright 10.4.2018)
Eileen is always inspired by the voice of Love within her. May our hearts always be joined as ONE in Love and through the words that appear on these pages may you feel the light and Love she has for you.